For starters, the Emmy winner does her own dishes!

Well, she was washingsomethingin the sink before she reached out to shake my hand.

I was too busy taking mental notes of my surroundings to know for sure.

(OMG, theres her Emmy in the living room!)

Oh, and she doesnt live in a mansion.

Its more homey than mansiony.

It was very much in sync with Heigls casual appearance that day.

Too Norman Rockwellian to be true?

Im sure some of it was a ploy to butter me up.

But I was still feelin it.

Besides, when it came time to get down to business, neither Heigl nor I pulled any punches.

Herewith are just afewsnippets from that discussion.

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But you didnt show up on March 1.

So before I was due back, I spoke again to Shonda about wanting to leave.

Then I waited at home until I was given the formal okay that I was off the show.

The rumors that I refused to return were totally untrue.

Would you describe it as an amicable parting?

HEIGL:Yeah, I think so.

Naleigh and I will always be a little bit complicated.

[Laughs] It was really hard because she loved Josh so much but she just kind oftoleratedme.

I hope I made the right one.

You wish you could have it all exactly the way you want it.

But thats not life.

I had to venture to find the courage to move on.

And I am sad.

We did it twice this season.

It starts to feel a little manipulative.

Any regrets about making that statement?

[Laughs]

Why?

HEIGL:You know… At the time I thought I was doing the right thing.

And I wanted to be clear that I wasnt snubbing the Emmys.

The night I won [in 2007] was the highlight of my career.

But really, I could have more gracefully saidthatwithout going into a private work matter.

It was between me and the writers.

I ambushed them, and it wasnt very nice or fair.

Are you aware that this is how some people view you?